Defining moments
Everyone has defining moments in their life. Not just one or two, there are several
things that I would consider defining moments, that you can either let be your
label for life or you can chose to move forward and make a gain.
things that I would consider defining moments, that you can either let be your
label for life or you can chose to move forward and make a gain.
All defining moments are not bad. A defining moment is almost like the climax in a story and
we have all read happy unicorns and rainbows stories and villainous adventures;
I guess where I am going with this is…you have a choice as to what you cling to
as your defining moment and how you choose let it shape you.
we have all read happy unicorns and rainbows stories and villainous adventures;
I guess where I am going with this is…you have a choice as to what you cling to
as your defining moment and how you choose let it shape you.
A few examples if you will:
The “I peaked in high school idea” I think that this is a defining moment for most if not all
former high school football players that do not go on to the NFL…”Oh back in
the good ole’ days…my former football days…they were sooo good. I had quite the arm, I was the best
tackler in 5 counties, Oh that game against < insert rival team name here >, that game was the best game of my life…those were the good ole’
days…
Tragedy usually is a defining moment too. Death, injury, illness, loss of job,
current failed attempt at making your dream a reality, a bad day, bad week, or
even a bad year.
current failed attempt at making your dream a reality, a bad day, bad week, or
even a bad year.
Great defining moments could also include: marriage,
graduating high school, graduating college, getting your masters, PHD. Etc. Holding you first born, holding
your second born for the first time, getting a promotion, having an epiphany
and trading in your condo in the city for a farm in country, running a marathon,
being published, learning to love again. I would consider all of these and many more to be defining moments as well.
graduating high school, graduating college, getting your masters, PHD. Etc. Holding you first born, holding
your second born for the first time, getting a promotion, having an epiphany
and trading in your condo in the city for a farm in country, running a marathon,
being published, learning to love again. I would consider all of these and many more to be defining moments as well.
On a personal note, a family member of mine recently had a
mental breakdown and at times, is about at the stage of a 10 year old…we
recently were having a conversation and to my surprise I was being told “ I
don’t know if you know this…but I am depressed, really depressed, and I had a
mental breakdown. This was not in
an informative tone, but rather almost an acknowledgment of a badge that this
person now proudly wears. As if I did not understand all that has occurred over the last 9 months and could not comprehend the severity of the situation or a mentally ill facility .
mental breakdown and at times, is about at the stage of a 10 year old…we
recently were having a conversation and to my surprise I was being told “ I
don’t know if you know this…but I am depressed, really depressed, and I had a
mental breakdown. This was not in
an informative tone, but rather almost an acknowledgment of a badge that this
person now proudly wears. As if I did not understand all that has occurred over the last 9 months and could not comprehend the severity of the situation or a mentally ill facility .
A few of ways defining moments manifest in our daily living : we must announce out
deficiencies and make everyone aware of our defining moment; or live by them and
limit ourselves to only where we have been and what we have chosen hold on to…what we
envision as the most traumatic (good or bad) event to date.
deficiencies and make everyone aware of our defining moment; or live by them and
limit ourselves to only where we have been and what we have chosen hold on to…what we
envision as the most traumatic (good or bad) event to date.
What if your defining moment never came but helped grow and
shape you into your future self…like a project you are working on and over time, working out the imperfections…what if you are not a complete work and you are still being molded? I
don’t know about you but I’d rather not put stock in my high-school self. To think, if I stopped
growing then or limited myself to those life experiences, what would be the
point of the rest of my life. Life
is full of building blocks.
Sometimes those blocks are tiny and make you feel that all of your
efforts are not amounting to much, but those times are needed to build strong
foundations that can later support the weight of the leaps and bounds that you
will make with your new found knowledge of your past self. What is your defining moment? Is it what you want it to be?
shape you into your future self…like a project you are working on and over time, working out the imperfections…what if you are not a complete work and you are still being molded? I
don’t know about you but I’d rather not put stock in my high-school self. To think, if I stopped
growing then or limited myself to those life experiences, what would be the
point of the rest of my life. Life
is full of building blocks.
Sometimes those blocks are tiny and make you feel that all of your
efforts are not amounting to much, but those times are needed to build strong
foundations that can later support the weight of the leaps and bounds that you
will make with your new found knowledge of your past self. What is your defining moment? Is it what you want it to be?
Know who you are, know where you have been, know where you
want to be.
want to be.
